The Sadness of Life

I've put off posting about this subject for months now and even now I'm not sure if I can finish or if I will hit the delete button AGAIN. It's about life--real life--our life!!! It's about the heartbreak of a family broken. It's about the end of a marriage. Brad and Chely ended their marriage months ago but it was final in January. We've been dealing with it since he moved back in with us last Spring. I think that Brad has handled it better than I have. Chely was the daughter that I never had and although she really irked me sometimes, I took the bad with the good. Together her and Brad gave us three beautiful Grandchildren and I will forever love her for that gift. But she decided that she wanted something different in her life. I think the thing that is hardest for me to understand is that she took back her maiden name despite having three children with our last name. In the beginning I missed her and even still did things with her (shopping, etc...), but as time has passed and she has made no effort to stay in touch, it has gotten easier for her to be gone. We still see the kids every weekend when they are here with Brad and I have had to come to terms with the fact that she no longer wants to be a part of this family. Honestly, it's been like a death! In the end it's really about being happy and I truly think that Brad is a happier person now that they are no longer together. He's moved on and is making plans for his future. He's seeing someone new and from what I hear so is Chely. I hope that they can both keep in mind that no matter what they do, they MUST keep the kid's best interest in mind. All I can do is give all my love and support to Brad and the kid's and hope that everything will turn out for the best . I don't and can't show how sad this makes me in front of the kids. I just didn't ever want my grandkids to have to go through this. I just worry about who (and what) could come into their lives if their parents aren't paying enough attention to who they bring into it. I pray every night that no matter what they are safe. And if you're reading this and are the praying type, I hope that you'll say a prayer for them too. Children should never have to pay for adult decisions!!! Maybe I'll write more about this at a later date but honestly I don't even want to think about it anymore tonight.